 The following are essential ingredients for handling the trials of courtship.Do not raise your voice with one another. Any disagreement can be negotiated in soft tones. Raising your voice often incites more anger.Constantly reassure one another. The flame of love can dim without consistent assurance. If you are prompted to say something nice about your potential spouse, do it immediately. Sincere compliments can put to rest any lingering doubts your possible companion may have.
Do more than just say you love each other. Serve one another. Do little things that show your love like leaving phone messages or writing each other cards for no reason. Make lunches for one another. It's become popular in modern churches to use the concept of courtship for young Christians to select a spouse. Many have touted this as the true Biblical ideal for young men and women. The idea of dating multiple people until you find the one you want to marry is often considered sinful or, at least, undesirable.
The Ideal Of Courtship: Recently, someone told me her pastor had said she was ready to begin courting and that she should pray for God to reveal to her who she was to marry. She was very excited that he (the pastor) had finally given his permission. She then explained that they did not date, but preferred the Biblical ideal of courtship. For those of you who are wondering, no pastor can speak for God with respect to someone else's timing or method of selecting the mate God has chosen for them. But, taking the cult stuff out, what about courtship? Courtship is still practiced in some cultures, but the more developed world has opted for dating as the preferred method of choosing a spouse. Here's the courtship concept: With permission of the parents, a young man and woman enter into an exclusive relationship where they see each other (usually under supervision) for a specified period of time to investigate the possibility of marriage.
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